Take Time Out for Mental Digestion

How can you get support for your ideas more easily than ever before?

I am fortunate enough to live in paradise. I am surrounded by vacationers of all kinds along with retirees .... and where I live they have all been very successful in their careers. The other day a retired executive gave me an old pamphlet he had carried with him throughout his career. It was entitled, "Take Time Out for Mental Digestion."

He told me that this little pamphlet had been one of the most helpful things he had ever read in his business life. he was a former high level executive of a very well known and respected company.

The message of this pamphlet was simple. It said that people always resist new ideas and new courses of action, even if the ideas are good for them. However, if they have an opportunity to think about them for a few days, very often they will come around to the new way of thinking with both agreement and enthusiasm.

The pamphlet said that an individual needs about 72 hours to absorb a new idea. Effective executives are those who present their ideas in very casual way, rather than as a decision or a fact engraved in stone. They present their thoughts as ideas for consideration. Effective executives encourage the other person to take the new idea or new way of doing things and think about it for a few days. They say that "we can discuss this later" and they just leave the idea with the other person.

I thought about this for some time and have come to the conclusion that this is a remarkable piece of advice and a very important insight to communicating effectively with others.

People Will Resist Change

It is normal and natural for people to resist change of any kind, even and including a change that they will benefit from. So, allow them to take time out for mental digestion. Present your new idea in a low keyed, non-threatening way and just encourage the individual to think about it for a while and then discuss it later.

Present Ideas As Possibilities

Many people are continually frustrated by trying to get their ideas, which you may think through and think, of course, are wonderful, accepted by your seniors and your co-workers.

When you start taking time out for mental digestion and just present ideas as possibilities, you will be astonished at how much more readily people will turn around and come to see the validity of the ideas. Also, if you present an idea with too much enthusiasm, you trigger natural resistance which soon becomes ego-based, irrespective of the validity of the ideas.

Present Ideas in a Low-Keyed Manner

On the other hand, if you present your ideas in a low-keyed manner and just leave them for consideration, people can come around to accepting them in their own time and embracing your new ideas without any loss of face or without any ego problems.

The next time you have a great idea, mention it casually and ask other people what they think about it. Give people time to digest the idea, even if they are totally opposed to it at the beginning.

Action Exercises

First, think your ideas through on paper before you present them to others. Expect natural resistance. When you do present your ideas, do it in a low keyed, almost indifferent manner so that it stirs up no resistance.

Second, expect your ideas to be rejected initially. When this happens, simply ask open ended questions to get feedback and then present your ideas again at a later time in a different form. It is amazing how effective this strategy will be.

To your success

Self Confidence

You probably already know that the most successful people in the world pocess incredible levels of self-confidence. These people have accomplished great levels of success and happiness in their lives and seem to be unstoppable in everything that they do.

The fact is that when you develop unshakable self-confidence your whole world will change for the better.

Self confidence will give you the confidence to take whatever steps necessary to make more money and enjoy a higher standard of living. You'll be more powerful and persuasive with other people. And you'll be more popular and likable.